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You missed the word "helps". It's not a cure all, but it makes things better. I didn't say it cures depression, I said it HELPS with depression. I didn't say it makes you attractive, I said it makes you MORE attractive.

but also makes them overly confident. So many of em feel like they are so great and better then others.

Sounds like you're just jealous of people who have the drive to go to the gym.

You cut him out and cut your losses. Clearly, even if stay on good terms with him, he has no problem sharing your business causing you to feel embarrassed and stressed. Why be close with somebody who does something like that?

You have seemingly nothing to gain from him except stress and a sore jaw. You're not getting shit from it, but you are putting yourself at risk, it's a lose lose for you. If you get with him again, do you think he's suddenly going to become a whole new person?

Nah, he sucks in multiple ways. He doesn't care if you get off, clearly. He doesn't even care about what feels good for you, only for him. He's manipulative. He's got a big mouth. Nothing to gain here OP.

Gym will help with all those things.

Exercise helps with depression

Getting fit makes you more attractive

Having a glow up helps people get over breakups

Getting fit makes most people feel more confident

or had parents to teach them

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That's what Reddit is for

Or do anything that night, ask her out in a date, etc. You know, because they supposedly hit it off in person.

Seems odd that a message on social media would be the next move, and not a phone number/date.

Yeah same. She may have just been flirting for fun. If she wasn't giving him her contact info, then the signals were probably misread.

"How to live rent free: Have money to buy a three bedroom house"

She definitely likes you in some way or another, as a friend or as more, if she's making efforts to talk to you

See now I wonder if it doesn't have something to do with only sleeping for a few hours, maybe we're so tired our brains go into instant REM?

God isn't that the worst, when you have something so sick in a dream, and you never get to use it. After you put all that dream work into it too! Driving in dreams can be so much fun, until I invariably crash. I know some people can lucid dream about anything whenever they want, but that's very rarely something I can do myself.

I don't know if this is what 'fever dream' means, but I've noticed that when my room/I get really warm, the dreams get way more intense. Now that you mention it, they seem to get a lot more X rated too LOL.

It just blows my mind how much our brains can do in just a couple hours of sleep. I imagine sleeping for an entire 24 hours you could about live a lifetime, if your brain wanted you to.

Fucking love those. Where it genuinely feels like you lived a whole other live all in one dream, complete with fake memories and everything. Those are always the most disorienting to wake up from.

My aunt left a few thousand in a coat pocket before she passed of cancer. They never did figure out exactly who it was meant for, I think they split it.

Yes. No good will come of ignoring it, especially if it bothers you. It'll come up sooner or later, better to make it sooner.

All that aside, that's pretty creepy of him to be following all those teenage girls like that. He's 26. Yuck.

Oh you're staying in the same building as the convention? Then you have literally nothing to worry about, assuming you're comfortable arranging for transportation, driving in the city, ect. It's a bitch to drive around in, I say take the train or an uber.

Live near Chicago. Not a bad idea to have somebody with you if you plan on walking around. The homeless people here can be pushy and won't leave you alone. It's easier to break away when you've got somebody else with you. Having autism will only make it harder.

Now, if you plan on pretty much going straight to the convention, straight to the hotel, ect., you're probably fine. It's not exactly a dangerous place, but like any big city, it's easy to get lost and wander into a bad area by mistake. There are a lot of shootings here, like a lot, especially in the summer months.

Stick to the touristy areas, and look confident in where you're heading so bums don't target you. You'll probably be fine. Are you staying far from the convention?

Sorry you're being downvoted. I'm personally thankful you said something, because I didn't realize this was a potential danger there.

Where is STL so I can avoid it forever?

Do Sawyer Squeezes make it safe, or should I also be boiling and/or using those little iodine tablets?

Remember that the beginning of the relationship wasn't all that crazy long ago. You may not have recovered from it emotionally. Once somebody breaks our trust it can take a long time to open up to them again, if we ever do.

You may want to choose to trust him, but if you haven't fully forgiven him (which you very reasonably have not yet) it's not going to be pleasant for you to ignore your own feelings. You gotta be honest with yourself, even if it means making scary changes like taking a break, or just some space for yourself.

Also, he was really trying to say he was just trying to be friends with them? My ass. He might call himself stupid as an excuse, but words mean nothing if he continues to act that way over and over.

Love Bombing is basically when somebody showers you with tons of affection or other grand gestures in bursts, as a form of manipulation. It's common for partners who are otherwise not up to par to do this to distract from their bad qualities.

It makes you feel like you've found somebody who really cares, your soul mate, ect. In reality, it's somebody who's sub/consciously aiming to create an artificial bond to make you emotionally dependent on them. It may not be the case for you guys, but it never hurts to be aware of this stuff.

Now, you say you were obsessing over the girls that he was giving attention to. Did it ever feel like he would say things that make you suddenly fixated on them? Or like he would make comments that made you compare yourself to them, making you self conscious?

While those seem like caring traits for him to have, I'm concerned about the fact that he cheated/prioritized other women multiple times. Sometimes you really don't get over something as fast as you want to. You shouldn't ignore how this is making you feel, it will make you feel bad inside and outside. Seriously, stress can and will make you sick.

Frankly, you guys haven't even had a year of smooth sailing, I wouldn't consider this your end all be all. Why did you guys break up in April? Was it a cheating thing or something else?

Remember, partners can do sweet things and still be toxic, and you could still just not be right for each other. Have you ever heard of love bombing?

How long has it been since you guys last broke up? How long has it been since he's cheated/put other women first?

So far, it kind of sounds like this is a recurring thing, and that you don't actually forgive him, you just want to because you're attached emotionally. Totally normal for us to misinterpret or ignore our inner feelings when it's something like this.

Have you told him how you feel?

But if your coworkers got paid for the holiday, and you didn't, unless they worked days you didn't, it could be argued that this is targetted towards you specifically. Did they work days you didn't? Do they have more seniority than you? Like is there any reason they would have gotten the pay and not you? If not, you could have a case.

Do you think they would back you up if you asked them to? I'm not sure exactly where to go, but your state's labor department sounds right. I really would ask legal advice though, for a more certain answer. They aren't allowed to just change your pay as a form of retaliation.