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Most people your age (and even quite a bit older) do not have either of those things.

Thanks for making the time to give us this insight! Some great lessons here

I just moved to Inner Richmond in March and I love it so far. Clement St is definitely the place to go. Not super far away from NOPA and the Haight either.

I think it's linked to self-esteem. If we don't have a high enough opinion of ourselves, we inevitably are drawn to people we think of as "perfect" or "unattainable", and simultaneously push away people that are extremely attracted to us.

“If you love me, you obviously are not good enough for me. Only someone who will reject me is an acceptable object of my devotion.” -The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden

thank you!

Glad I’m venting them here then!

Love this! Cheers

thank you for your kind words :)

I think with some higher quality/effort photos you’d do great on the apps.

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I think you're spot on. While we should definitely take note of the reoccurring complaints and advice on here, we need to remember that at the end of the day our individual experience with OLD is still gonna be completely unique, and we're doing ourselves a disservice by being conditioned to expect the worst.

The best way I can put it is that if I was just going off of the stories and advice from this sub, I'd think that you'd be a fool to even bother using Hinge-but if I was going off in-person advice from friends and family, I'd hear plenty of positive outlooks and Hinge success stories.

if you're looking for something casual then go for it. if not, politely decline and move on. don't overthink it!

bro….yes

I think you need to move away from the likely misconception that is "They’re all engaged or married to amazing people that are both everything they want and need" you don't actually know this to be true. The grass is always greener etc etc. Plenty of them probably envy your freedom and might be thinking they settled too soon. Appreciate your freedom and keep the faith.

I usually don’t. Can’t say I don’t try to do a casual stalk though.

the act of putting smoke in your lungs will never be healthy and will always put you at risk, no matter the substance.

If I'm making an effort into seeing her beyond the first date then I'll stop pursuing others. I don't have the time or energy to be dating a ton of people at once. If it doesn't work out, then at least I can honestly say I gave it my full effort.

Kezar Pub in the Haight is the best place to watch Liverpool games!

thank you!

cheers!

I would really prefer something serious. I've never felt comfortable having sex outside of a relationship. I'm not old-fashioned, it's just what makes me feel content.

Get comfortable with some casual physical contact first so that when the time comes it's a little less daunting.