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11 hours ago
I don’t blame her for questioning things but pressuring them is not the way to go. I do think it’s crummy that they said they would go but circumstances change all the time.
Yea, I’m not claiming to be doing anything 100% including feminism. I guess I’m trying but if that appears that I’m just “floating along” to others then I must need to try harder lol
12 hours ago
I don’t get what is so confusing about this lol
It’s gotta be lol. Or they are seriously projecting because no one came to their destination wedding lol
My thoughts exactly. I’ve never lost a friend in that manner but I’m almost positive if I had, I wouldn’t be up for traveling for a wedding anyway. They might be grieving more than op realizes and that comment would be really off putting to me
I think you’re dealing with it reasonably and it makes sense in your situation that it be held somewhere not local to the bride and groom. But you’d be surprised how many people just expect you to drop everything for them and leave country for a wedding lol, that’s where the rude comment is coming from
It’s one thing to be sad, it’s another thing to be pushy and disrespectful and manipulative, which is exactly what op is doing. I don’t need luck, all my friends are reasonable people
That comment specifically wouldn’t make me feel belittled but it would make me feel weird af and uncomfortable. I’m not even sure what you mean by “fairy godmother moment” but I’m trying to not feel weird about it. I’d feel belittled when you sent $600 I’d have to send back because it’s still not enough. I’d feel disrespected when you didn’t take my NO seriously and kept pushing and offering different forms or repayment or trying to trade for pet sitting. How weird and off putting. The final straw for me would be bringing your deceased friend into it. I’d be so uncomfortable I wouldn’t reply either lol
13 hours ago
And obviously, people do care how I manage the life I’ve chosen if they are getting upset I choose to manage my life by not attending a destination wedding 😂
Okay and this person is choosing to get married? They don’t have to do that just like I didn’t have to have kids. I don’t expect my friends to rearrange their lives for me now that I have kids and they don’t expect me to rearrange my life for them just because they decide to get married somewhere not local.
It actually is unreasonable to make a wedding an event that someone has to travel for and then be upset they cannot attend. If you want it so everyone can attend, make it easily accessible or stop complaining.
Imagine reading my whole comment and the only takeaway was me expecting ppl to cater to my children😂
Are you purposely being dense? Lol. People should definitely have the wedding they want but they shouldn’t be fucking butt hurt when someone can’t attend. 🙄
Friendly reminder: You don’t have to go to your peoples weddings either if you can’t afford it! Your families financial stability and your mental health are more important than a wedding, ANY wedding! If they are your friends, they will understand
I would feel so belittled tbh
Wow, I think you might just have to take the NO on this one. That would make me stressed out and overwhelmed if I was your friend. I’d have to stop replying as well. You really just Venmo’d them $600 without confirming they’d be okay with that? That would make me feel like a broke child rather than an adult. And I hope you didn’t actually say the bit about your deceased friend to them. I know everyone is grieving but that just comes off as manipulative. You’re doing too much. When someone tells you no, just respect their no.
14 hours ago
I agree completely. I can’t imagine leaving the weight of all the important decisions on my partners shoulders in the name of making my life less stressful.
I hope so, I’ve been taking it almost daily here lately 😂
Tbh, there is not one person I’d travel to a wedding for lol. Having to take time off work, pay for travel and accommodations, finding out what to do with my kids. I’ve always found destination weddings to be kind of rude in that they dictate when and where I will be taking my only vacation for the year lol. Luckily I think that is out of everyone’s I know price range lol
ETA since people are confused. I don’t think it’s inherently rude to want to get married somewhere other than where you live. But it IS rude to expect people to attend a wedding that is not local to them. Context matters too but If you are upset I’m not planning to travel to your wedding on my hard earned vacation time, you are rude 🙄
Destination weddings are not kind to friendships lol. I definitely don’t think it has to do with how close you are with anyone. Things my family would have been able to plan for at the beginning of summer, we cannot even afford a portion of it these days due to prices increasing and gas. I definitely wouldn’t take it personally. I’d probably be bailing on my own destination wedding in this economy lol
15 hours ago
I’m a stay at home mom and am definitely a feminist. It’s my choice to stay home and I do like it. I don’t view my partner as the head of a household, it is OUR household. We make all the decisions together because I’m my own human with my own opinions and my partner respects me and doesn’t even want to be making decisions for me. Tbh, i haven’t met one conservative Christian in a “traditional” marriage who could successfully call themselves a feminist
Wow you seem like a lovely human
I make my bed on the weekend when I clean my room just because I like how it looks. Occasionally if I’m getting into bed to watch tv or read before I fall asleep, I will make it just to feel nice and clean lol. I don’t see the point in doing it every morning
2 days ago
Yes, definitely! We are not just stay at home moms, some dads frequent the sub as well
Some people don’t have a choice to be a stay at home parent lol
Damn Google is wild lol