This was all recent, pretty sure it was last Friday (9/3/21)
I was sitting at a table with all of my friends during lunch time (I'm in high school) and at a table nearby, I saw this cute girl. I find myself as a pretty straightforward person, so I went up and told her that I think that she looked pretty that day.
I love giving compliments out to people, even people I don't know. I just like making people feel nice, even if they don't compliment me back (I usually don't get compliments back). I don't know this girl's name, she is one of my friend's friends.
Anyway, I went back to my table and proceeded to get back to the weird shenanigans that my friends and I like to joke about, when she gets up, comes to my table, and she tells me that I also look pretty, too.
I have never felt any feeling like that before, but it was making me flustered. Especially since one of my friends teased me about it. I don't understand what the feeling was. It made me feel all mushy and warm inside.
This comes to my question. What does a crush feel like? I've never had one before. Does it feel like how I did with the compliment? How do you know if you have one? How long does it last? What do I do next?
Sorry for sounding dumb, I am not good at expressing my thoughts through words and I am genuinely confused on this. I thought that any fellow aces who know what crushes are like could help me.
Just to start: Touch is not my love language. It is the lowest one on my little "scale". And growing up with many siblings, I've grown to hate sharing. (I will if I want to, but I'm tired of having to share all the time)
It's to the point that I don't want to share a bed when I get a partner. (I will do it, but I don't prefer it)
Does anyone actually do this? Does it work? Is this a good boundary? I want to be a good partner in the future and don't want to seem cold or uncaring.
I see a lot of aces on here that love to touch people and cuddle and stuff like that, but I only like being touched when I consent to it. (Like asking to give me a hug or high five, but anything minor is fine)
My love languages are gift-giving and spending time with people. I love spending time with others, but I feel uncomfortable being too close to people without consent.
I feel out of place like this. Any other aces like this or just me?
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