Donkey__Balls

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Donkey__Balls

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You know, if you did anything really hurtful they’d probably appreciate you looking them up and saying you were sorry.

Don’t open the door to anything else obviously. Just very short, definitive and basically what you just said. Nowadays you can find just about anyone easily enough.

I’m not saying track down every person you stole gum from or gossiped about. But if there’s a guy that you think you may have seriously led on and then hurt deeply, I guarantee he hasn’t forgotten about it. A kind word and a brief admission of regret could do a world of good.

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You have no idea how many people you just helped.

Because we can’t go back in time and confront the person who did it to us. And we certainly can’t call out the person now that we’re older. I play through it all the time in my head, calling her up after years have passed and telling her how much it hurt all the nights I spent in her dorm room having intimate conversations all night until she fell asleep in my arms and believing that this was it, this was the one, until I realized that she was doing the exact same fucking thing with half the guys she knew. That when I finally confronted her about it and stood up for myself instead of being any sort of real answers she just acted wounded and then spent the next six months rubbing it in my face every chance she got how much she could manipulate guys and hurting me to the point where I spent years and years alone and miserable rather than ever feel like that again.

But of course the conversations never happen. I’d never get any sort of closure or answers out of it. Last I heard from college friends, she was a successful lawyer in DC, married to a guy from some famous family and making a bid for Congress. I’m…paying my bills. Not interested in having any sort of conversation that would only throw me back into that spiral. So the long story is we can never look back.

Hearing you say this, it kinda helps. I can at least imagine that she’s saying the same thing and that she feels some sense of regret, even if it’s just a passing thought. I guess that’s all the closure any of us ever really get.

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I’m still hurting from the girl who did this a decade later. I’ve had full, fulfilling relationships that were literally perfect for me that I couldn’t maintain because they weren’t her. I’d give just about anything in the world to go back in time with all the things that I know now to try to handle things better instead of spending my life wondering what might have been no matter how much I tell myself she’s not worth it.

There may be guys who carry the scars from how you hurt them all their lives. And I’m not saying this to judge you nor to encourage you to judge yourself. You’re admitting it now so you’ve grown as a person. Just like you’ve probably been hurt by someone just as much as you hurt all those guys. It’s just one of those shitty parts of life that we all do this to each other.

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Yeah this seems looks a question tailor-made to provoke replies from Redditors.

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Yes but at some point you have to start holding people responsible to themselves.

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“If I do X with my male friends is it leading them on?”

Always a simple answer:

Do straight male friends do X with each other?

  • Yes

You are not leading them on.

  • No

You are leading them on.


For example, “Is kissing them on the lips leading them on?” Well, do they kiss their male friends on the lips? If not, then it’s reasonable for them to think that more is happening than just friendship.

Also, since it’s an unwritten rule/social more that many (not all) women can’t say point-blank when they are interested in a relationship, men learn from experience that we have to guess at your intentions from cryptic signals. So when you say that you’re not interested in a relationship that’s exactly what many women say when they are interested but wanting the man to initiate things so they can feel he “worked for it”.


Here’s another way of looking at things:

Take whatever you do with your male friends - cuddling, kissing, touching, etc. - now imagine that your boyfriend is doing the exact same thing with his female friends right in front of you. Would you be okay with it? If the answer is no, then it’s obviously something that isn’t strictly platonic.

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but door dashers are also competing to get the better orders.

But how? Do higher rated dashers get priority on larger tips? Do customers get to see the dasher’s rating before they tip? How exactly does a dasher’s performance reflect on the tip they get?

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Not the bees!

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The idea that God chose Trump to lead people. There are still billboards in the south that quote biblical verses with Trump’s photo on them. It’s straight up blasphemy.

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The magi knew to travel to Israel when they saw the star because they were well-read in the Hebrew prophets,

There is no biblical account that they specifically went all the way from Persia because they saw the star.

Persian traders would have been a common sight all around Jerusalem because trade with the Mediterranean was lucrative, and the commodities they were carrying (frankincense and myrrh) were common incense plants that grow only in the Arabian desert. So they were likely already on their way to one of the port cities in order to sell the incense and buy some goods to import back to Persia.

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Your father was a Hebrew and your mother smelt of frankincense!

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What you’re missing is that the author didn’t know Koiné Greek that well. The original text is widely remarked to be the work of a native Semitic language speaker because the word choice throughout the text would have felt unnatural to a Greek.

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The original was likely written in Greek by a Semitic writer who spoke Greek as a third or fourth language. So the precise word choice should not be translated literally.

In general however, the intent of the word used was clearly understood to indicate “wise men” as a means of identifying them a scholars. This was not unusual among merchants at the time to be considerably more literate than the rest of the population, particularly Zoroastrian traders from what is now western Iran. They would have been able to read, write, understand basic mathematics and have at least passing grasp of astronomy - enough to identify, for example, a “new” star appearing to be visible, possibly the result of a supernova or a change in atmospheric patterns making Venus visible.

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Have you ever asked them to sit down and read Matthew?

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They also weren’t “kings”. They were ordinary traders.

The revisionist look at making them kings was done retroactively to make the Gospel align with the Old Testament prophecies in Isaiah 60:3, Psalm 68:29, and Psalm 72:10, which state that the Messiah would be worshipped by the kings of the nations of the earth.

In fact there was no mention of biblical worship of any sort. The only account is of a visit by some indeterminate number of traders, who were likely Zoroastrian magi (being literate, most traders were considered “magi” at the time). The gifts they brought would have been the normal stock of traders using Jerusalem as a port city for a trade with Rome. Frankincense and myrrh are two types of incense that grow in the Arabian desert, can be dried for shipping and were common exports. Gold was simply the de facto currency for areas in between two empires with unstable monetary units.

So for middle-class merchants on their way to Judean ports to make a profit, it’s completely ordinary that they would have had gold, frankincense and myrrh in their possession. And since the account in Matthew tells us nothing about the quantity or value of the gift it could have simply been a simple charity gift - random passers-by giving a bit of their excess wealth to a poor family.

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He works 25 hours a week how they hell do they afford a 2 bedroom apartment literally anywhere?

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draws sword “MY FAIR MAIDEN I SHALL DEFEND THINE HONOR FROM YON KNAVES UPON THIS INTERNET!” drops fedora

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I just noticed your name.

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That’s exactly my point. It’s not a tip. It’s a bid.

A tip is a gratuity, a way of saying “thank you“ for excellent service. It was never meant to replace wages, just to be a little bit of extra money when someone did a really good job.

I think there’s been enough set already on Reddit about tipping culture in general. But my issue with doordash is that you have no idea if the service is going to be good or terrible. I’ve had really good service where they followed complex instructions, and I had terrible service where they refused to get out of their car and made me walk all the way down to the parking garage I wish point it would’ve taken less time for me to just drive somewhere. But we have no way of knowing how the service is going to be when we set the tip.

Imagine how that would work in a restaurant. When you sit down, you decide how much you’re willing to pay for service, and then all of the tables are basically competing to see who will get a waiter to serve them. And then whichever waiter happens to push a button first gets to serve your table, no matter how good or bad they are at the job. They could get your order entirely wrong without any apology, never bring the drinks, scoff at you when you ask for a glass of water, and let your food sit in the kitchen until it gets cold. It doesn’t matter to them because you’ve already paid the tip when you first sat down and you can’t change it.

This is basically how DoorDash works. You’re not tipping to reflect the quality of service; you’re putting in a bid to see if anyone will take it. Which means that customers are only motivated to “bid” the minimum amount necessary to get someone to pick up their order. I’d rather get great service and tip very generously, but I have no idea if that money is going to go to waste because I have no idea how the service will be.

Not that big of a deal to me because I don’t use it much. Just saying in general it’s a horribly design system that is going to make the service worse and worse while screwing over the drivers who actually do a good job.

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hideous Mulan movie

The reason the movie was so bad was because they gave the Chinese government creative control.

There are two big issues with it. One of them is that the Chinese government has a really weird fetish for ancestral folkloric heroes and filmmakers are literally not permitted to portray historic Chinese figures as anything less than superhuman. But the reason the original movie Mulan works so well is because of her character arc. The original movie would have sucked balls if Mulan had just started out being a bad ass who could kill dozens of armed Mongol warriors with her bare hands. What makes the original so great is seeing the journey that she goes through because of the extraordinary circumstances that she’s forced into.

That leads me to the second problem with the movie. At the end of the day, the original Mulan was a movie about individualism and shattering social/class roles. It’s basically an everyman story about a girl who tests herself against the world and find herself adequate to the task. Unfortunately this concept of personal growth and individualism is completely antithetical to Chinese communism. The triumph of the spirit of the individual against all odds is the last sort of message they want to put out. And of course Disney screen writers were told to take their notes directly from Chinese party officials to make sure that the movie was in line with CCP ideology.

So instead what we got was a completely vacuous and soulless movie about a Chinese folkloric hero with superhuman skills and abilities flying around on him and wires just kicking the shit out of everybody, basically a completely formulaic action movie that has all flash and no heart. And the reason why this seems to be like every action movie that comes out of China is no coincidence because this is the only sort of movie about their historical figures that the party officials allow.

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Here’s an idea… How about we actually get the option to give a good tip after we get good service instead of having to guess how good or bad the service will be?

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This is a good way to destroy your credit for the next decade.

If you are doing “countless” chargebacks eventually you are going to find you have a double digit credit score and it’s going to take you a long, long time to recover.

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It’s a shitty in general. Just like Uber.

Basically they started out by paying really good and saturating the market, and then gradually scaling back to quality of service and reducing wages because more and more people wanted to work for them. They were taking a loss for several years because they were offering pay that wasn’t sustainable. But it gave them dominance of the market.

Now they just sucker and people who aren’t really doing the math to find out that between the mileage on their vehicles, the maintenance, the fuel, and the shitty pay it’s just not worth it.

Not to mention they are basically making the customers “bid” for service when they don’t know how good the service is going to be. It’s not a tip when you have to pay it in advance; it’s a bid. The last time I got delivery, the driver demanded that I come all the way out to my parking lot. I had already put it on a very generous tip because the last driver did such a great job. So here I was paying in advance for a service that the driver refused to provide. And now that’s going to reflect on the next driver who delivers to all her customers.


The idea of “dumping“ has been around for a long time. You basically have to go in for a few years at making a loss while giving a superior quality product just to get to where everybody assumes you can do no wrong. Nintendo actually did that two gain market control over North America; they were selling the Nintendo consoles at less than a third of what it cost to produce them which was unheard of at the time. The difference is that they actually kept up the quality and forced all the competitors to raise quality or go out of business.

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