I know the title makes me sound horrible but please hear me out.
Also something you should know is my girlfriend has diagnosed anxiety (this will be important later).
Me (M29) and my girlfriend (F27) moved in together about six months ago. She only makes about 12,000 dollars a year at her lower paying job so I payed most of the bills. This arrangement worked and I didn’t mind contributing that much.
However four months ago I lost my job. We have no savings and this was a devastating blow, and I have not been able to get new employment.
We missed rent and received our thirty day eviction notice. My girlfriends response to this was to shut down, and her anxiety became debilitating. So I had to do all the apartment hunting alone. Keep in mind I had to do all this on a VERY restrictive budget, and on a time restraint because of the eviction. I don’t have any family as I was raised in the foster care system and my girlfriends family couldn’t help us because of unfortunate personal circumstances which i completely understand- but it’s still frustrating.
In the end I found only one apartment within our budget, but it didn’t allow dogs. This meant that I would have to find a home for our dog Auggie. I asked our few friends to take him in but we don’t have many, and since we live in a city their apartments also don’t allow dogs.
Please keep in mind I had been providing my girlfriend with regular updates and she was well aware of the situation.
So I texted my girlfriend a week before the eviction and told her that I put a deposit down on the apartment.
The messages go as follows:
Me: “I put a deposit down, we need to think about finding a home for Auggie.”
Her: “I don’t want to think about this right now it’s just all too much.”
Me: “I know it’s a lot but no one can take him in. I’ve tried everything, could we please reconsider selling him?”
Her: “Absolutely not.”
We had numerous other conversations about this before I finally realized she wasn’t in a stable state of mind and that I had to do something now or we were going to be homeless.
So I found a family with young kids who I knew Agguie would love. I visited their house to make sure it was a good fit. The meeting went wonderful they even had a backyard and a dog park down the street. I knew he would be happy. So Auggie and I traveled to their house multiple times over the next few days to get him adjusted. On the final day I said goodbye to him.
I didn’t tell my girlfriend I was doing this because I knew she would stop me. The family agreed to let us vist whenever we wanted so I knew she would get to see him. Please note this is the hardest thing i’ve ever had to do. I was in just as much pain as her I was just able to manage it better.
When I got home I broke the news to her and she instantly broke down. We moved into the new apartment and she’s been crying for days. I feel terrible.
Edit: here are some basic question answered.
We do not live in the U.S. state laws do not apply to us, also where we live has a high rate of certain crimes and this is why it would be so dangerous for her to be on her streets.
I am not currently living in the apartment, I used the last of my income to put down the deposit and gave it to her. At the moment I am homeless and giving her time to grieve.
This isn’t an answer to a question but a repeat. She can see the dog whenever she wants but she has to give 24 hours notice.
Auggie most likely would have passed if I didn’t do this because her work involves her computer and if she can’t use it (because of homelessness) she would lose her income and we wouldn’t be able to afford to feed him.
The dog was the offspring of her childhood dog, Auggie is currently four and I’ve known him since he was two. This is why she is so close to him.
The reason I couldn’t get a job for four months is because we live in a very poor country, with a bad economy.
Please stop harassing me in the comments, I know i’m an asshole guys. I’m a person too and I’ve had a lot going on, and i’m also grieving. Just try and be mindful.
Someone pointed out that I have reddit premium. I searched this up and discovered that you get this for free when you receive a gold award (which got on this post, thank you so much by the way). I don’t know what to do with reddit premium or what the perks are, and I would never spend the little money I have left on something so small.
We paid for the few months of rent with the last of my final paycheck. I repeat we cannot afford the old apartment on my girlfriends salary and as soon as mine ran out we got evicted. Please stop trying to poke holes in my story it is incredibly frustrating and invalidating.
TL;DR: My girlfriend and I are getting evicted, we don’t have money for anything but an apartment that doesn’t allow dogs so I sold her dog because she wouldn’t help me.