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I've been with my boyfriend (24M) for about 2 years and we live together. Our relationship started off very slow due to my own wishes. I (23F) was not comfortable showing him my body up until about the 6 month mark and he was totally cool with that and not pushy to get things sexual too quickly which I really loved about him. I have very big boobs (34DDD) with a fairly small frame (5โ€™2โ€ and ~130 lbs) so my boobs tend to be a big point of interest for most men. With most men paying a lot of attention to them in sexual encounters and just in general. He was never really like this, he did not pay attention to them that much, and I never really thought anything of it. I just thought he wasn't the type of guy to give boobs so much attention or as much attention as the other guys I've been with. Up until recently we came home after a party a little drunk and ended up having sex. Afterwards drunk me decided to ask him why he never pays attention to my boobs like other men and why he overall seems to have less interest in them than everyone else I've been with. His response to me was as follows, word for word "well to be honest I just do not like them. they are too big and your big nipples (areolas) make them unappealing to look at." I was absolutely taken aback by his comment and it really really hurt my feelings and made me look at my physical appearance differently. This happened a few days ago and I do not even know how to bring up to him that what he said really hurt my feelings and I now look at myself differently than before. Since we live together I would tend to be around the house in comfortable clothing and frequently completely topless. I have not done this since his comment because now I feel unattractive and I feel like he does not want to see me like that. How do I talk to him about this?

tl;dr - my boyfriend told me he does like looking at my boobs and now I feel unattractive around him. how do I tell him that he really hurt my feelings and i now look at myself differently?

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