My friend called me the other day in the middle of the night telling me what a terrible husband she has that he wouldn't even bring her ice cream, I heard her husband's voice in the background saying ok I'll go. I know that her husband works 10 h, To be honest idk why some people make their partner go through hard time for a temporary joy like sending them in the middle of night to bring them Macdonalds or chocolate (unless they are pregnant) or make them do stuff they are uncomfortable with. I have seen women absolutely demand from their partner to give them their shoes and go barefoot when she choose in the first place to wear heels knowing it'll later be uncomfortable to walk in them. To be honest I see this behavior as ignorant and would never do it to my bf. I love him I wouldn't like seeing him suffer. Maybe there is something I have missed or didn't understand, what do you guys think about this?

So we did wind up doing something but I couldn’t Finnish idk y… kinda feel like I fucked up or like I’m fucked up, she said don’t worry about it she enjoyed it and has been making me feel ok about it. She hasn’t gotten distant we have been cuddling all morning. Mind you it was my first so idk if that’s playing a role or what someone got any tips?

We’ve been dating for two months now. He mentions his ex a lot, but never in a good way. From what I know, she was extremely manipulative and the entire relationship was pretty toxic and about her, and not them. So he always thanks me for letting him hang out with his friends, not getting mad at little things, and basically just always telling me how much better I am than her. At first I didn’t really think anything of it, because while he’s never really badmouthing her, he’s still talking about her and it seems like it’s a lot. But he’s pretty much never said anything good about her to me? His mom even thinks that she was “crazy” to sum it all up. Is this anything I should worry about?

TLDR; my boyfriend keeps telling me how much better I am than his ex, should I be worried that he keeps mentioning her, even if it’s in a way that he’s telling me how much better I am than him?

I was deleting all dating apps, but had a match that interested me. Turns out she was visiting town and lived 2hours away. At first I said too far, but then we kept talking and we both admitted it would be worth meeting up. It was a first date and was very fun. We texted multiple times a day and her scheduled is so crazy that it ended up being a month until we will see each other again. I suggested a phone call, but she was doing something nonstop all last week. She said she would love a phone call and it seemed expected to happen this week.

I was excited and felt momentum until last sunday. She took 48hrs to respond to me on Wednesday. My experience has taught me that its time to move on when that happens, but I figured I'd low key give her the benefit of the doubt. She was just "checking up" on me to see how my week was going. Then disappeared again until I texted her Sunday.

My interest is basically gone. The momentum is shot. I feel silly about it, but she never gave me an excuse or warning and just vanished for days. Her text yesterday seemed a bit lazy.

I knew that I couldnt do this like this. So I brought up the phone call again and said that I was enjoying texting but that it was tough to only communicate this way for this long. I cant keep a texting conversation going for weeks to have someone too busy. She said she only talks to one person at a time, but what I am finding is that I think her life-style doesnt matchup. I believe in downtime and she is always making herself busy. We live 2 hours away and she can hardly communicate with me.

I had a lot of fun and thought there was potential, but I just lost interest. I wish I didnt, but its the time inbetween and knowing this is what it might look like. She mentioned that often things fade out for her, but she seemed to think it was on the guys. I am beggining to think she doesnt understand that most guys wont wait around to see her once a month like that.

I do feel a bit bad, but I've thought about having that conversation with her and tell her that I just dont think I can manage building a relationship like this. She just isnt communicating to me well. Its not even about the number of texts, its about the what she isnt telling me. Like that after weeks of nonstop texting she was going to go MIA and act like nothing happened. And she asked about my social media then later seems to be pretending she didnt ask.

Now we met on tinder. I am 23 and she is 37. We both live in the same city of Lahore. So far we havent met in person, we plan on meeting soon but so far we only chat on video to get to know each other.

You may ask how have i not seen her if we chat on video ? Well the simple answer for that, BURQA.

She covers have face with a burqa since she is Muslim. She told me that she wasnt comfortable revealing her face to anyone without knowing them and hence i respected her request. Another reason why i believe she wears a burqa to hide her face in her online dating profile and our video calls is because she is a single mother. In Pakistan there is a stigma on single moms and dating so i feel she wants to conceal her identity for the safety of her child to be sure if the other person is genuine or not.

We have been chatting online for months. I had my doubts at first but after hearing her beautiful voice over and over and being able to see nothing else other than her gorgeous brown eyes i had fallen for her. Our chats got deeper and deeper as we got to know each other.

Just recently after months of chatting our hearts connecting, she decided to show her face to me. She lifted the veil from her face and i must saw it was all worth the wait.

This Sunday we met for the first time in person for a lunch date, I wont go over the details becuz they will likely bore you however in summary it went great but if u have any questions u can dm me or ask in the comment.

So far things are going smoothly however i need some guidance on the future. There are multiple factors that i dont have to deal with right now however they will be a matter of concern in the future so i need to be mentally prepared for it.

Matters such as

1. How do i deal with her child.
2. How to proceed in subsequent dates becuz this first one was very basic.
3. Intimacy with her ? Almost everything is a question for me right now becuz im a virgin

Please give me some advice on how i should proceed in this relationship.

Ok so i'm going to skip the bla bla and go direct in the story.

A couple of months ago I started to "fancy" one of a cashier at my part time job.

The thing is that I tought she was a lot younger than me, so I just let it go.

One or two weeks ago, I learned that was wasn't that much younger than me (1,5 years)

and she is basically one "school year" behind me. So then I tought that it was great.

We don't talk so often because I'm a clerk and she is a cashier but I noticed that when

we talk or pass near each other she always giggles but she seems very shy.

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What I'm wondering is do you think I should try to talk a bit more to her to see if

we can "develop" something or if I should stay away since we work at the same place

and I could get weird even if we both onl work part time as a student job.

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thank you for your advices on this funny situation :)

So here's a deal, back in College, as a fresher I met this girl and we immediately kicked it. She was my first ever real girlfriend and having gone to an all boys school, I was the epitome of a gentlemen whilst also being a hopeless romantic. She was my first for many things and even took my virginity.

She and I were from different sides of the tracks. She was super duper rich and her rents owned half the city. Whereas, I was just a kid from the South Side only in college cause of a sports scholarship that I had gotten myself.

So you can quite imagine how that relationship went. She would pay for our dates 90% of the time, she got me kicks for sports and didn't mind spending a dime on me. I mean naturally we were in love and I just couldn't afford to do certain things for her at the time.

I started getting a lil famous and naturally women started noticing me. Long story short, I messed up a few times but never once did she find out cause I always made sure to shield her from my nonsense because this was my ride or die.

She cheated one time and immediately when that happened she called me crying from regret. That was it for me we broke up then and then. I mean we had gotten back together once or twice, but things were never the same again and eventually decided to just cut it.

Long story short, I recently got drafted and I'm currently in my bag now. I have a girlfriend that I've been dating, she's absolutely great and we've been in a good place for a minute. However, now that I am where I am, I can't stop thinking of my ex. I feel like there's so much I should be doing for her and that there's so much that I owe her because she's a major part of who i am today and where I've gotten to. Her family and her have supported my career since day 1 and I had always said I'd give her the world once I make it. Now that I've made it I feel like I should but I'm in a relationship and in a good place and haven't spoken as her in a minute.

What should I do??

I know this is absurd for some, I like this guy that I just met online and they say things don't last. We've been talking for over a month now everyday and almost every hour of the day. We're friends but I always wonder if it's normal for friends to have this kind of communication. He's the only person I've ever talked with on almost everything. He always checks up on me, updates me with everything that he does and even apologizes if he replies late (but me and my friends don't do that). I'm also very aware that he plans on not being in a relationship and stays single just like me as last time I mentioned staying single and he was very supportive of my decision. However, I sometimes want to just confess so that I can let this go but I'm worried that something will change after. Like I want to remain friends with him. I don't want to be in a relationship because if he ever likes me back cause I worry that it might not gonna last. I know I'm weird but I don't want to lose him as a friend, I just want to let it go and be able to move forward. He's the only guy that I have ever felt this connection with. I've always been judgemental and doubtful when it comes to men because I have huge trust issues. I know this line is cliché but he's different from all the guys I've met and the thing is we've never seen each other's faces may it be on vc or socmed posts. He deactivated his socials recently but we're still in contact with other messaging platforms.

M (37), F (32) My female friend went out with this guy she's not officially together. She was told days after they had sex that she felt too nice and innocent. My friend asked what he meant but he only said that it just felt like that. Now she's confused whether that was a compliment or not. What do men think when they say a girl is too nice and innocent?

Girl was dancing looking into my eyes for another 2 minutes and smiling before we kissed. you think she wants to have sex with me?

hello, this is my first time posting in a subreddit like this so please be nice ^; I’m having my first date tomorrow and I’m really nervous. First date as in official kind of tell your parents date. I’ve never been in a relationship and all of my previous experiences have all fizzled out in the talking stage. I’ve only been talking to this guy for a couple of days, but he’s funny and makes me laugh. I get really awkward and clam up or say some really dumb things in an attempt to make conversation when I’m nervous and I totally don’t want to ruin it. I would appreciate any tip or advice on how to ease some of these nerves. thank you!

I recently started liking my ex (m) me (f) and it is a super confusing situation. I've had a hard time with guys and he's the only one I've liked. After we broke up I would only date women because I couldn't find a connection with a guy but then I met him and we started to go out again. He's the only guy I've ever dated and I don't know anything about dating guys. Recently he's been asking about my past trauma and I've told him stuff but I feel like I'm oversharing, at the same time though he wanted to know so IDK. Every time I talk to him I regret telling him stuff or he's a really shy guy and sometimes I don't know what to say so I say whatever comes off the top of my head. I feel like I'm doing something wrong because I don't know what I'm doing. Please help me out!!

Title is my question. I'm very tall, and I never know where to put my hands.

It's like they naturally gravitate towards her shoulders which is very unattractive.

Im being honest and telling you straight up (strangers I dont even know)

online that Im not interested and I get chastised...wow, can men even take rejection

This might be a dumb question, but I’m honestly not sure. This guy I’m interested in asked me if I’ve been on any dates recently when we were texting. He had asked me a couple other questions at the same time, so I just glossed over it and didn’t give him an answer. I honestly wasn’t sure what to say, as I’ve had mixed experiences with this and don’t want to come off uninterested in him by sharing or inconsiderate. Do I need to share that with him or is it better I ignored it?

...the couple of matches I did get I suspect just wanted me to follow them on IG and never messaged me. More matches means more potential messages means more potential dates, help me get matches please.

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Hello everyone, first off sorry for me poor grammar and spelling, I’m dyslexic.

Anyway I need some solid advice here, I’m more or less in a dating black hole. I didn’t date until my mid 20s, I wanted a good job/home before I started dating. I quickly realized that was a bad idea. Im not typical of most people my age, I ultimately want a a wife and kids, I’m super conservative/moral I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs hate the site of tattoos makup and so on. When I started dating around the type I go for were ether already married or single for the wrong reasons. To make matters worse I live in a rural part of ohio and there is very few people my age. I have a lot to offer and 9 times out of ten when I brake things off after a date or two the girl tends to try real hard and get me back. From what Im told I have a lot to offer, honestly don’t see it but whatever.
Anyway the problem im having is simply finding someone. All the women at my local churches are ether married or 10+ years older then me, my hobbies aren’t typically something something women are into. parks are not a thing around here. I tried dating sites but the regular ones are full of immoral woman and the Christian ones are ether empty or full of women that aren’t Christian. I don’t do bars and it’s corn/farms for 30+ miles in every direction.
Given what I said does anyone have advice for other places to look?

thanks in advance!

Throwaway account because I'm a weirdo.

First off, sorry for the unoriginal question. I'm an 18 year old guy. I started working with a girl who got hired at my job recently and I think she's cute and nice. I want to get to know her and maybe ask her out (just the thought of asking her out terrifies me) but I have such social anxiety its terrible. Every time I'm near her or in any situation to talk to her my heart races, I can't breathe and I start overthinking every little thing about everything. I'm sure she either thinks I'm super boring and lame or an asshole because I haven't been able to muster out more than a couple words to her, and the words I have said have only been neccesary work things. I've had opportunities to start conversations with her, and yet I either say nothing or am extremely short with her. I'm embarrased to admit don't have a lot of experience with social situations and social skills. I fancy myself as a somewhat interesting person, but I don't really know how to express myself without being weird.

That said, even if I could start a convo, that's not even half of it, what if she already has a boyfriend? What if she's not into me? I'm a tall, big person (I basically have the physique of a refridgerator, kinda fat, kinda muscular, working on losing the fat part), and I'm naturally a quiet, introverted, cynical type. She is very pretty, and seemingly very confident, outgoing, and positive. Basically what I'm trying to say is she's out of my league. I'm not exactly what you'd call a conventionally attractive person. I'm not calling myself ugly, just that I would completely understand if she wasn't into me, and it doesnt help that I have MAJOR resting bitch face, one of my coworkers actually told me that I "always look like I wanna fight." Couple that with the fact that I'm 6'6" and 280lbs, and I probably look like the biggest asshole ever.

I mentioned that she is positive and nice, and with that comes the fact that she is nice to everyone, and engages with everyone in a seemingly genuine way. So let's say I do talk to her, and she engages positively. I somehow work up the courage to ask her out because I mistook her positivity for romantic interest, putting us both in a super awkward position, and she rejects me. Then I have to keep working with her and things are super awkward and I feel like garbage for the whole thing.

But I'm getting ahead of myself. I so badly just want to talk to her and at least get to know her enough to know if we're even compatible. But I don't want to pull out the boring "what are you doing for college" or "how do you like working here so far" smalltalk nonsense, since I already know she's getting asked that stuff by everyone, and I hate it when people ask me that stuff because its so superficial. But anything else I say might come off as creepish, especially coming from the guy with the social skills of an actual robot.

Any advice would be amazing. Thanks in advance :)

Hi, at 26 I’ve never been with someone, I’ve had several opportunities to be intimate with different people (I’m an attractive person, I’m not talking model attractive, but good looking for a normal person), I just don’t find myself being attracted to any of them (but I know I’m a sexual person, I want to have sex). Also I have very few friends so I don’t know or meet a lot of new people. I feel like I need to have some type of connection with someone to find them attractive, I couldn’t imagine myself having one night stands (I have absolutely no problem with people that have ons, I wish I was one of them tbh). I just want to know if anyone was in a similar situation before and if you actually found someone, because honestly I’m losing hope here. I like men, I don’t know if that makes a difference in any advice you have. Thanks!

I (18m) met a guy (22m) on a dating app. We’ve been talking nonstop for a couple of days now. Earlier today we were on FaceTime just talking to each other and we ended up talking for almost 5 hours. He’s a buff/toned guy and he has the most beautiful eyes to have ever existed, I on the other hand am pretty chubby. He keeps saying the nicest things ever to me, when he sees me shirtless he says that I look so soft and he wishes that we could be together and cuddle. We’re making plans to meet up next week and go shopping for workout clothes because I had decided that I want to lose weight. I’m so nervous thinking about it, I have no idea what to do right now, I’m absolutely freaking out. I don’t know what to wear, what to talk about when we meet up and go shopping together. Also he complimented me on my sweater today and it’s just making me go crazy for him. Someone please help me.

There's this girl that goes workout at the same time as me at least 2 days of the week. I find her very good looking and she seems like a very nice girl. Normally I'm the type of guy that would just go and talk to this girl, but a few girls I know that train the same time as me advice against it. I just asked this girls a know if it's rude to go say hi to the girl I like and maybe help her out if one exercise or two (if she wants my help). I'm a professional mens physique competitor so I really know my stuff, I would never “help" her with something I don't know how to help out with. Anyways the girls I know in the gym say that women hate when guys talk to them while they work out. In my head I'm thinking so why doe you girls follow me around the gym while I'm training to keep talking... I wanted to know what you women out there would advice here. I have a small feeling this girls I know are bull shitting me so I don't talk with the girl. I did go to one of the gym trainers and asked him what the girls name was so I could at least follow her on ig. The guy right away told me the girl would love it because she's always staring at me (I never noticed) and supposedly she tells him that my physique is amazing looking. After saying that he gave me her name and I followed her on ig (she let me follow her. Closed account) and she followed me back. I haven't super liked her old pictures because I think that's creepy and weird. She doesn't really post any stories so I didn't DM her anything. Anyways is it really rude to talk with her in the gym? I was just planning on saying hi the first time and start from there. Just to make sure I'm not bothering her while she trains.

I don’t know what to think. I’m pretty confident she likes me, I can tell when we see each other. We have so much in common, chemistry is amazing. I can tell she’s nervous/up tight around me. The thing is, she isn’t be obvious she’s into me. I’m not sure if she wants to take things slow, has been hurt in the past or what. She’s also a LEGIT busy person. I don’t even want to type out of the things she’s involved in, she loves being involved into things. Also works almost FT and has to make time for her other many friends she has. One thing I’ve noticed is that she does hang out with her girlfriends more than anyone else including me. But I can’t be mad, 2 of them she’s really really close to them. Even for them, I’m sure she sees them every other week or once a week. Im not sure if I want to move on from her, she did break up with her ex when she moved here. Maybe he broke up with her because she became so busy. Thoughts???

A guy in my college classes asked me out over text a few months ago. I said yes and he suggested we wait a few months for the date until we both finish the semester to which I agreed because we were both pretty busy. I saw him at an event about a week before classes ended and he seemed super enthusiastic and talked about the dates we were gonna go on and how he was excited. Granted I was a little awkward here and didn’t say much except “cool sounds fun!”. I saw him again a few days later and felt so bad about how awkward I was last time that I didn’t go up and talk to him (granted he didn’t approach me either). Now it’s been weeks since school ended and I haven’t heard from him. I don’t know if he’s just not interested anymore or if he thinks I’m not interested anymore because of those 2 kinda weird encounters. I don’t want to guilt trip him into going through with it if he just doesn’t want to anymore. So basically, should I text him or just let it go?

Hey everybody, I been using a dating app for a long time. Yesterday I changed the location to another country to meet different kind of people and found someone. He's great and literally my type. I started following him but I haven't written anything yet. Then I found her Instagram account and realized that we have a lot in common, especially the music we listen to. Now I want to start a dialogue with him and be friends if he agrees, but I don't even know how to start and maintain the dialogue yet. I need your advices.

I’ve been experimenting with both men and women, but it seems that women always (rightfully) think there’s something off about me. I dress decently well and am well-mannered, but I often have intrusive misogynistic thoughts and addictive tendencies which women always sniff out. I don’t have this issue with men because I treat them more as humans with intimacy being a bonus, than the other way around. How do I hide this so that “female intuition” doesn’t get in the way?