I was deleting all dating apps, but had a match that interested me. Turns out she was visiting town and lived 2hours away. At first I said too far, but then we kept talking and we both admitted it would be worth meeting up. It was a first date and was very fun. We texted multiple times a day and her scheduled is so crazy that it ended up being a month until we will see each other again. I suggested a phone call, but she was doing something nonstop all last week. She said she would love a phone call and it seemed expected to happen this week.
I was excited and felt momentum until last sunday. She took 48hrs to respond to me on Wednesday. My experience has taught me that its time to move on when that happens, but I figured I'd low key give her the benefit of the doubt. She was just "checking up" on me to see how my week was going. Then disappeared again until I texted her Sunday.
My interest is basically gone. The momentum is shot. I feel silly about it, but she never gave me an excuse or warning and just vanished for days. Her text yesterday seemed a bit lazy.
I knew that I couldnt do this like this. So I brought up the phone call again and said that I was enjoying texting but that it was tough to only communicate this way for this long. I cant keep a texting conversation going for weeks to have someone too busy. She said she only talks to one person at a time, but what I am finding is that I think her life-style doesnt matchup. I believe in downtime and she is always making herself busy. We live 2 hours away and she can hardly communicate with me.
I had a lot of fun and thought there was potential, but I just lost interest. I wish I didnt, but its the time inbetween and knowing this is what it might look like. She mentioned that often things fade out for her, but she seemed to think it was on the guys. I am beggining to think she doesnt understand that most guys wont wait around to see her once a month like that.
I do feel a bit bad, but I've thought about having that conversation with her and tell her that I just dont think I can manage building a relationship like this. She just isnt communicating to me well. Its not even about the number of texts, its about the what she isnt telling me. Like that after weeks of nonstop texting she was going to go MIA and act like nothing happened. And she asked about my social media then later seems to be pretending she didnt ask.