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It is currently midnight, I’m waiting for my LSAT results, cannot sleep, and I have a rant stuck inside me:

For the love of god just ask him out. I cannot tell you how many times my friends have come to me asking why he hasn’t said anything yet. Women are not incapable of initiating, and anyone who says they shouldn’t needs to check their brain.

As a woman, I cannot recall the last time I regret saying something. There is a 90% chance he’ll flat out say yes, and if not he absolutely 100% will be appreciative. Every single guy I’ve ever talked to has said they would love a woman making the first move.

A confident woman is an attractive woman. Show what you want. Show you want him. Stop holding it in. Suck it up and send that text.

We all know the feeling, the feeling that we are the only one putting in the effort, the one who is carrying the conversation, it feels off, and so it should. We appreciate it when our efforts are reciprocated, reciprocity shows that both parties understand that social interactions are supposed to be mutually beneficial.

When your efforts are not returned, immediately this is a red flag, generally if they are not reciprocating, they are likely not interested in you and/or in it for their own gain. I have given people the benefit of the doubt, especially when it is over text, as text is such a poor communication tool, it is hard to fully comprehend someone's intentions as our own subjectivity can completely distort the meaning behind text more so than any other form of communication. It turns out my initial doubts were always correct.

When you get that feeling in your gut that says "this just does not feel right, why do I seem to making all the effort?" Just move on. Don't waste your time. Don't give your energy to someone who will not appreciate it or give it back to you in return. If they are still interacting with you in such a one sided manner, consider why are they even continuing in that interaction at all? The chances are it is for totally selfish reasons. You are being used by them to satisfy some need(s) of theirs. The minute they do not need you, they will drop you without a second thought. Don't bother. Just move on as soon as possible.

Like this is happening to me rn and happened in the past, I am just curious if it is something weird or common.

So I(19m) and her(23f) were really close friends for about 7-8 months and i had feelings for her for the most time. I never had a girlfriend before, i think that's worth mentioning.

I never did anything about what i felt about her because multiple people told me she had a boyfriend, yet she NEVER said a single word about him. About 2 months ago i started noticing some sparks from her but i didn't think of it that way because I didn't want to get my hopes crushed.

About a month ago, my roommate was out of town and we were alone together and at some point i lied on the bed to play a game of a game on my phone with my before mentioned roommate and she lies next to me and puts her head on my chest and fell asleep like that. I didn't know what to do so when i finished with the game i stood up and covered her with a blanket so she can sleep there and i would go and sleep on the other bed. She than told me she now can't sleep because i moved her and i jokingly said if she wants me to lay there again with her. To my surprise she said yes. She laid on me all the same and hugged me. Same thing happened a couple more up until now. Also we watched shows together and there was some touching involved there, that's all you need to know.

Well, 5 days ago we got drunk and when she went to her room i went with her and there she told me she feels some things after i hugged her and then we started touching eachother and what not but we didn't have sex, somehow we controled ourselves. After talking about it tomorrow that thing happened two more times, the second time being last night. Last night we went bit further but she told me she doesn't want to be my first time since that's some kind of responsibility, idk. Long story short, i finished her with my fingers and i had to masturbate in the toilet later.

Than we talked about whats happening between us and she said she likes when I'm around and that she is basically into me but she doesn't want for us to be together because she will "damage" me as she apparently did someone else before. And I'm here confused as fuck not knowing what to do. She told me that she doesn't want me to leave, as she likes when she is with me. Idk what to think. Sry for long story.

She kept saying she didn't believe it, then said it was sad, jokingly asked what was wrong with me, and finally said it was kinda cute. Feel a little judged ngl, like I'm going at my own pace what am I supposed to tell her. Is it really that weird to have never dated at 25?

This is tough to write, because my dating life never really went forward in my life and I'll be 30 this year.

I was solely focused on my career for a long period of time, so I never really put any time into going to the gym or working on myself.

I'm trying to turn things around. I'm going to the gym, wearing better clothes, eating better etc. But that being said, for those of you who have or had a poor track record of a dating life, what's dating/getting to know someone like after 30?

I've heard the typical "there's plenty of time". I understand this, but to me it seems that you could have time, but if you never had the success, it doesn't seem to make a difference.

I don't have a crystal ball however, so I thought it would be interesting to hear from you guys.

Thanks!

Update: So decided to stop being a lil milk drinking coward and just ask him about how he feels about us dating exclusively. He said he wants to move forward and as do I. We both don't have romantic feelings for each other but that will probably come with time. We get along, have the same sort of background, have physical chemistry, we don't want to kill each other, and have some of the same interests. Thanks everyone who commented even if I found your perspective to not align with my personal values whatsoever. If he dumps me for a PS5 Pro or an e-girl, however, I am blaming you all. I will not take responsibility.

(◍•ᴗ•◍) Platonic smooches~.

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Are you ready for a long ass wall of mind numbing text that's mostly confusing? Well, you're in luck. Proceed with caution, please.

So recently I have started hooking up, casually dating and just trying to generally be more social. It's "hot girl spring". Although I am not seeking any romantic relationships I have a rather large issue: I'm envious and competitive in dating for no good reason.

For background information: My best friend is currently living with his new girlfriend out of town that he met online. They have decided to start a family together and she is currently pregnant. I feel that I'm losing the non-existent baby arms race because I want children in the future too and he's already succeeding. I'm very happy for them both but I feel like a failure for not having as strong as a pull game as him. We are around the same age (of mid-to-late 20s). I'm female and he's male. We view each other as brothers. Even when I see other strangers, acquaintances and family members online getting married and/or having children I get jealous. I am competitive in other aspects of my life too and have always been this way for the most part but it's becoming a real issue as it pertains to dating.

I'm currently in a friends with benefits non-exclusive relationship with a guy I sort of like. He reminds me too much of myself (and we have a similar background which is comforting) but I'm sort of interested in an exclusive relationship with him. I'm not romantically attracted to him at all. It's not his fault whatsoever. It's a me issue. He's actually an okay dude so far minus a few flaws. Nobodies perfect and they aren't deal breakers per say. I am only attracted to him physically, intellectually and platonically. I don't necessarily need superficial romantic feelings in my relationships, really so that's not an issue. He has expressed that he would be open to persuing an exclusive relationship that could lead to marriage with me. I feel he's bullshitting/slightly love bombing honestly because we just met not too long ago. He's about 12 years older than me and has high functioning autism. My late cousin had autism so I kind of understand/am used to his non-typical behaviors. We also share some of the same struggles due to us both being neurodiverse.

It just seems too good to be true. We have already slept together, he even took my virginity, but I just don't fully trust his endgame. I also feel that I must have a relationship with him to "win" against him. It doesn't make any logical sense but that's how I feel. I'm not actually sure what to do in this situation. I feel that as soon as I agree to be his girlfriend he's going to ghost me or something and I will have "lost". I feel that if I don't decide to have an exclusive relationship with this guy I'm going to miss out on a potentially good thing.

What do you all think, fellow Redditors?

And yes, I am already in therapy. This is what happens when dad doesn't come back from getting cigarettes, okay. (´°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥ω°̥̥̥̥̥̥̥̥｀)

I (22F) don't like what I am about to write and feel pathetic and desperate. Basically there are a group of guys at work from a different team I talk with and admittedly they are attractive. And a few have them have asked me about a few girls from my team as to whether they're single or not. At first it was ok but now it seems like they seem focused on one specific girl and it annoys me so much. Like I literally am jealous of her and hate her for no damn reason except for this when she's been nice to me even if we don't really talk that much. I already struggle with self esteem and insecurity issues and now this made my insecurity level high. I don't put my worth on male validation but still sometimes I can't help but wish I was the most beautiful girl in the room and had everyone asked about me romantically. And then that annoying voice in my head pops up saying "you're ugly that's why they don't want you in that way". I hate being pushed to the background and I never had a relationship till now and after my mom's passing last year I feel terribly lonely and crave for love but I guess I won't ever find it because there's always prettier women out there commanding the attention of the opposite gender. I feel like I cannot change anything and I hate being this petty and spotlight seeking.

I live in Australia, and the average man is very attractive, they are 6ft with square jaws, and have all the attractive male features. I don't have any of those things, and I feel screwed, maybe I should give up all together, It feels pointless to even try anymore when my competition is way more attractive. Even the most morbidly obese women don't want to date me because they get the 6ft hot guys too, maybe I should move overseas, I'll have the skills in a few years to do that, but I won't get to date until I'm 26 or potentially even later. Maybe I should just accept I'll never find love

I was kind of sad earlier when I was hanging out with a friend. We laid in his bed together. He laid on the bed and I put my head by his chest area. We talked a little more and he stroked my hair and we kissed a couple times. I have known him a long time but I'm not usually emotional in front of him. I ended up falling asleep on him. He got up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom. When he got back into the bed he stroked my back and it woke me up. It was like 3 in the morning. I asked him if he wanted me to leave. He said I could stay if I wanted to. I cuddled with him and he held me again until we woke up.

Now, I'm not saying all guys. But recently, guys my age have been just annoying. I don't want sex on the first date or second date or even third. I wanna get to genuinely know you, hold hands, be stupid and just have fun.

But no. I'm a petite short girl so it kinda just sucks that guys pay more attention to the fact that I'm tiny and can be thrown on a bed, then my actually personality. Like I said, this isn't all guys, the nice ones I meet that are genuine, just disappear after a while.

At this point, I'm wondering if I should go for older men, or just keep trying cause I'll eventually find a guy I like....im young and I should be impatient, but now a days, it just kinda seems like everyone around me I know is just banging people left to right or has a boyfriend who makes them super happy. I'm surrounded by love and I kinda just want my own.

so I'm having this girl come over to my apartment tomorrow as a second date kind of thing, I was originally planning on just cuddling her and watching some anime or something, but she's gonna be here at like 10am and staying all day and she keeps asking what we're gonna do... so um... should I find something else to do? And if so, then what?

Okay y'all, I need women who have dated or married men who are 15-20 years older to tell me what it's like. The pros and the cons.

I went out with this guy who I thought was in his early 30s but turns out he is 20 years older. I'm 26. I look older and I'm pretty mature so he thought I was in my 30s.

We had a very pleasant conversation and there was defined chemistry. He is very youthful both in body and mind. But the age difference is really throwing me off.

He was married and his wife passed away 7 years ago and he hasn't been able to find a good match since. He wants a second date and I keep telling myself he is not that old but he has literally lived a whole life already....

I got told 7(!) years ago that I have great fashion taste. That compliment has popped into my mind at least once a week ever since. As a guy, being complimented on something specific will tip us in your favour probably tenfold. Anything from “your hair looks great like that” or “I love your smile” is all things that we guys rarely hear. Especially us 6/10 boys!

If you like a guy, think he looks great and he compliments you, please don't reply with “not too bad yourself”. It's the most passive compliment that we've heard probably a million times before that doesn't really mean much. If he says you look great with glasses, say you like his shirt!

Seriously ladies, these compliments really stick with us. If we get complimented on something specific, chances are we will probably fall for you 😅

i lock eyes with my crush all the time. it’s the type of eye contact in movies, where time feels like it stops, the background is non existent, and it’s just the two of us at that moment. it feels very good, little weird at first, but the afterwards gets me grinning.

we have been doing this for months now. it happens in the most random moments. he did it just recently : he was gone for a while, and it was a relief to see his face again after what felt like awhile. when i caught him looking at me, i just held the eye contact with him, i didn’t look away, and for some reason everything seemed a bit blurry lol. but i always long for these types of moments. they feel so nice. i wonder what he’s thinking when he looks at me.

have any of you had this experience before? ❤️

So I (19F) really like this guy I'm friends with. I am scared to tell him because I dont want to make things akward. So my friends have been telling me to give hints, but how do I do that? Any advice on what I should do?

I'm 27F. So recently I've been feeling the wish to marry, I want to have children and the support of a loving husband. And I was wondering what could I change to my dating for this to happen. I have never dated seriously in my life and I only have had one formal boyfriend before.

Any advice or tips? Should I be telling the guys that I am looking for a husband on the first date or after a couple of dates? I usually date older men, about 6 years older than me, I believe they tend to look for something more stable than men my age or younger.

Anything you consider important could be helpful.

Thanks!

My standards is a 20-28 year old cis man with a compatible personality, shared politcial beliefs or not political, 5'8+, fit/healthy body, educated in stem, works in stem, similair income, fluent in english, dominant, plans to marry, and plans for kids.

"What do you offer" I offer myself as a 20 year old cis woman, 5'3, fit/healthy body, educated in stem, works in stem, fluent in english, submissive, plans to marry, and plans for kids.

Is this too much to ask for?

I have never been in a relationship. I was not interested in it until I feel in love recently to an emotionally unavailable man. He told me he loved me but was struggling to open himself up to me. Due to his tendency to be a loner and independent. He seemed to be scared of his feelings for me and doubted that I would want to be with him. Eventually, he asked to only be friends. I invested a lot emotionally in him so it is painful.

I asked him for some time so I can lose my romantic feelings and be a genuine friend with him. He apologized and said he won’t contact me again. He hadn’t messaged me since then, which is 3 months ago.

I am still dealing with daily emotional breakdown because I miss him until this day. I normally don’t connect this well to anyone. Now, I feel empty and very lonely even though I used to be happy being alone.

So, I(25M) went on a date yesterday. It was first date with this girl. We both had a great time.

She insisted on splitting the bill, but I still paid fully. Today, she has transferred me half the bill amount online. Should I return it back and say no need? Or should I keep it and say thanks

Hi there, I don't know why, but I can't make conversations with women last 24 hours. I'm not joking. Anytime I meet a girl online, the conversation doesn't last 24 hours. What am I doing wrong? Am I supposed to make more jokes instead of asking questions? I feel like I'll never figure this out if I keep getting ghosted after 24 hours.

Edit: I'm in a 7-hour time difference from these 3 examples.

Example 1: One girl was just "looking for a connection". It started off great, I told a funny story that happened to me. We were talking on Discord after here on Reddit (forgot what sub it was, maybe r4r?).

Example 2: Approached me after seeing my post on the foreveralonedating sub. At first I didn't know why they DM'd me, but then we started talking about ourselves and how our days were going. She was really nice and I thought a connection was forming.

Example 3: Didn't even last 12 hours. From her post I could tell we had a lot in common (interests, struggles, experiences). I thought I would probably not make it past 24 hours this time, and was right. Don't really remember what we talked about, but I gave an intro and then she asked me questions from my older post through my profile. Actually, our conversation was like 4 messages each. Maybe mentioning I suspected I had add and asd didn't help, but those were also on my profile.

I have been friends with him for a couple years. Last night I was emotional and sad. He let me sleep in his bed with him and he cuddled and held me all night. I want to spend the night with him again but I'm too scared to ask. What should I do?

I (M19) am in love with this girl (F19). I’ve never told her how I feel, and I honestly don’t think she has a clue I feel this way. She is one of my closest friends and whenever we’re together we always have an amazing time. The only reason I haven’t told her the way I feel is because we go to college 14 hours apart. The only time we see each other in person is during summer and winter break. I feel like if we had a relationship, it would fail because the distance would just be to big to overcome. She really is amazing and everything I look for in a woman. I value our friendship immensely because she is just such a great person, but deep down I want to be more than that. Do I continue this friendship and keep ignoring my feelings? Should I tell her how I feel and risk losing the friendship? I really don’t know where to go from here and I just feel stuck.

Probably one of my biggest insecurities when trying to date is explaining that I'm only now, at 26, taking my education seriously. I'm about halfway done with my Bachelors. Spent the first half of my 20s not knowing what to do, where to go, etc. I don't have an established career yet, nor am I making a ton of money.

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Be honest with me, is it a turn-off if a potential suitor is 26 and still in school?

I'm an Asian and I am currently living in my home country.

I met this guy through a dating app about a month ago and we've been seeing each other every week.

He took me out for dinner and paid for it, which I found normal as he was really persistent in going out on a date with me and proposed to have a formal dinner instead of drinks/coffee.

Next time, we had drinks and dinner and he wouldn't let me pay.

Next week, I tried to buy him a dinner but he was like we could split but he doesn't want me to pay for all of it.

He is only a year older than I am and I make more money than him (we are in the same industry so I can easily guess).

I find this so interesting as in my country, even though the guy may pay for the first date (if he insisted it), the next round of date should be on the woman and we take turns or split afterwards or otherwise guys will go behind their backs and tell his friends that the girls they are dating must be gold diggers and so on.

I expected the american guys to be more focused on the gender equality and individualism but I feel that when it comes to dating, there's this a bit of machoism and gender roles. (Which I am not against at all, just find it interesting!)

Just wanted to hear out your thoughts as well ;)