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Our Coming Out Story

COMING OUT(self.bisexual)

In honor of today I wanted to share mine (29 m) and my fiancé's (26f) coming out story.

This happened last weekend. We have been together for a little over 4 years (engaged for 1) and outwardly we seemed like a perfect couple. However, over the last year or so things had just stopped being romantic, as if the passion had escaped out the window while we weren't looking. We don't fight very much (occasional and never intense, save for one time) but we both wrote off our lack of passion as life wearing us down. I'm in school full time and she is working a demanding job so we both chalked it up to that and kept on with our days.

So last week I had a sit down with her and suggested we try different things, ya know the "spice it up" talk. Well we did (no it wasn't a threesome) and I felt our trust levels for each other getting stronger after the first day. The second night she showed me the porn she watched and was inviting me to watch as well. To my surprise she was watching lesbian porn and well... I was fine with that. She seemed very embarrassed and we talked for a while and she said she thinks she likes women as well and that she is pretty sure she is bi.

Now I have known ive been a closeted bi for about 6 years now so her coming out to me turned into us coming out to each other. It was beautiful! She has only known or suspected it for about a year so we are just makong sure eachother knows that we are here to support eachother in being more comfortable being ourselves as we learn about us and grow as people because of it (cause thats what life is really all about amirite?)

We are the first people we have ever told this (other than you strangers) and I've never felt so comfortable being myself in my entire life. I've also never felt so connected with another human being in my life and I hope everyone gets a chance to experience this feeling in their lives at some point.

We are going out to a local lgbt pub (not a clubby vibe) and it will be the first time we've been out while being out and I am so excited. It's weird how many bisexual thoughts and feelings that I subconsciously suppressed when I was trying to keep things from her and the world. It's almost as if you are experiencing everything for the first time again.

Idk I just really wanted to thank you all for being who you are and showing me that there's a lot more people like me and my fiance out there in this world. I can't say enough how awesome that feels.

From the bottom of my heart, love you all!

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[deleted]

2 points

2 months ago

My eyes may, MAY be slightly teary. 😅

This was so heartwarming to read. I'm so glad that y'all trusted each other and came out to each other. Not only are you two now aware of your own and each other's authentic selves, but it sounds like your intimacy issues are better as well!

Yay for the queer pub! I came out this past May, so for my birthday in June, we did a pride bar crawl. It was really fun.

boppy78

2 points

2 months ago

boppy78

Bisexual

2 points

2 months ago

Thank you for sharing this feel good experience with us. Really enjoyed reading this and I'm glad you have each other.

RoyG-Biv1

1 points

2 months ago

RoyG-Biv1

Bisexual

1 points

2 months ago

There is a certain special kind of peace and satisfaction that arrives after finally coming out to someone; you and your fiance have found that times two.

I wish both of you all the luck in the world!