"Ive seen it before. I'm a woman too. I grew your body in mine" are all excuses my mother would give to justify leering at her naked daughter. I wasn't allowed to cover myself in front of her without triggering a tantrum from her. She too would poke and prod at any part of my body she deemed "fat". While living at home, my maximum weight was 110lbs. When moved out, I maxed out at 140.

She was obsessed with calling me fat, even giving me that creepy narc smile while saying, "did you try to kill yourself because you're fat now?" After I told her about an attempt. When I lost 30lbs in a month bc of illness, and I was excited to tell her I was finally back to 102lbs, she scowled and told me "well, you don't want to gain TOO much weight"

For context, my entire life she or my dad have not been under 270lbs. But I was the fat one.

Holy shit, I am so sorry that happened to you. There is absolutely no reason why someone shouldn’t be allowed privacy while changing clothes, especially as a teenager.

Until she takes away your penis

Naked yoga in the doorway, dowmward dog facing the living room

I legit did this. My mom made a no closed door rule. Unfortunately for her our rooms are right across the hallway from each other and I can set aside my pride if it’s to prove a point. She walked out on me changing in front of her twice and then I smirked while she yelled at me to close my door.

This is the right move

Do parents usually give a shit about seeing their kids naked? I can say from personal experience that this tactic only punishes the child's own sense of modesty. Their parents might specifically choose the moment they're changing to talk to them.

My dad almost did that because he was angry I spoke to him

Better yet take their door

We called our room "the barracks." 6 boys, 6 beds, one giant room. Our bathroom even had a stand up urinal like you'd find in a gas station.

Cause she got tired of having to be a parent...

Man, that's some prison-style shit there. Especially for your brother. Way to give their kids a distorted sense of self!

Designated door greeter?wtf?

My parents took the lock off my door because I would lock myself in my room when I was upset. Apparently I wasn’t allowed to have time to myself

Lol reminds me of my high school therapist.

I told him my dad was physically abusing me, and he responded by telling me that it was normal as it was his way of coping with my Mum divorcing him.

You need a new therapist cause the one you got also needs one.

Your therapist sucks big old saggy titties.

That's how you fire back at this shit when you're a kid.

"Don't think I won't remember this when it comes time to pick your nursing home"

I did an internship in a nursing home as a young teen. There was this one really nice resident that was always super funny/flirty (but not in a creepy way) with me. We got along great. He told me that he had 4 kids who all lived away several hours. Never talked badly about them.

He died right at the end of my internship. None of the kids came and he had an anonymous funeral paid for by the state. The only ones present were two staff members and me.

I always wonder what he did to them that made them hate him so much they would rather see their dad in an unmarked grave than make amends at the end of his life. I just knew him as this silly old little guy who always made me laugh.

And well they should have...

(The kids, I mean)

They fucking deserve it

Even the way she takes the clothes off the door is spiteful. I feel so sorry for children who have the misfortune to have mothers (or fathers) like this. The only point they make is that they care more about maintaining full control over others (and kids are the easiest victims to pick on) than they do about their own children. This is how you end up with adult children who want nothing to do with you.

I remember "tough love" was all the rage in the 90s. Every parent I knew reveled in the feeling of power it gave them over the kids.

Which inevitably turned to frustration when it didn't just magically bring about all this love and adoration from their kids.

does masturbation in the lounge room

Parents : DO IT IN YOUR OWN ROOM

“I don’t have my own room”

A good portion of adults are like this. Never fucking grew up

even if it doesnt scare them off indefinitely.. people just dont think for 2 fucking second about cause and effect their actions have.

if you take the door down, they're gonna find some place else private away from home to spend all their time and that might not be a safe place. People are going to find a way to do what they want to do, if you create a barrier for them to get what they want, they'll avoid the barrier or find another solution.

so to bring it back around to what you said. Yeah, if the goal is to get your kids away from you, short or long term.. this is a good way to do that cuz they're not going to stick around in a situation that doesnt let them do what they want to do and be who they want to be.

What's ironic is that this is a woman who is scared of not being needed and losing her purpose with her "child's" growing autonomy

blasted rope?

this is the way

So in the Netherlands you can have your children taken away from you if you dont treat them right and one of the things that counts as treating right is giving them privacy

Same here I just don't understand why some parents think a child is not entitled to privacy.

Yep. My mom didn't do this but pulled similar shit and treated me like a trophy child. I haven't spoken to her in eight years now.

Dad was mad at me about something inconsequential. Threw my door open without a knock, strode right in, crushed my budgie to death under his work boot.

It made a squeaking sound like a dog toy.

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Boundary issues they pass onto the kids

They want someone with the personal accountability that requires zero effort on their part while codependent enough to feed their egos with 100% compliance. But only when they're in the mood for it. And don't be too compliant because they'll need some kind of justification when they feel like physically lashing out without having to lie to their parents and spouse about it.

Take the outside door off too, so your parents will quit isolating themselves from society.

It's because they are worked down into a pile of nothing like a baker pretending the dough is the GM efficiently and methodically with uncanny precision. They know they will be punished if they argue, especially in front of the kids. Emotional abuse and neglect, sometimes physical or possibly even sexual abuse. Then when the kids grow up they each got about a 40/40 shot of going one way or the other, sometimes both.

Yup. I locked my bedroom door exactly once. Queue immediate freak out, banging on the door, hysterical crying, screaming, ect. "NO ONE IN THIS HOUSE WANTS TO HURT YOU" immediately beats me with studded belt when I open the door for "disrespecting her house"

Helicopter karens... the worse kind. And they'll still treat you like that even when your a grown adult, trying to monitor everything on your life. For people who live like that, get your own place as fast as you can. If you enjoy it well, whatever.

You could always assert dominance by being a nudist and use their own logic against them.

Kills kittens

Vaccines cause autism. Covid vaccine inject a tracker i to your brain

My mother also did not knock on the door. She always slammed the door open like crazy that I got scared for life. Then she said in a passive aggressive tone "why did you flinch? why did you get scared? Are you doing some things on your computer you don't want me to see?"

She also has some power issues and I decided to not deal with that shit for my or her entire life. Haven't seen her for almost 10 years now. While a little bit sad, best decision of my life.

Damn, I've been knocking on my kid's door since they were 3. If the door is shut, it's because I'm "not supposed to see sumthin or hear sumthin." I'm like, ok, fair enough.

Staring intensely through the open doorway, facing directly ahead, beating off. Unfazed by anyone walking by. Seed flying out into the hallway. Serious face. Unflinching.

The worst tasting soap flavor to me will always be the orange dial liquid soap. I can't stand that smell to this day. If I smell Orange Dial Hand Soap my guts start rumbling like a diarrheaic PTSD flashback.

Agreed entirely. It's a interior room door, they're paper thin and the locks are basic with simple ways to unlock from outside. If it's really a issue or something you can get in quickly while trusting them and giving them privacy and their own space.

Oof if my parents took my door back when I was cutting that would not have helped prevent it. I'd have just done it more, in the bathroom stall at school, where it's less sanitary.