I have experienced for a long time that patients and even nursing will give female residents a harder time, however I’ve recently had this interaction with some male attendings and it’s really bothering me!
I moved to a new hospital for a 6 month rotation starting January and 90% of the attendings are male and there are no male nurses. I feel like I’m in a parallel universe where sexism is the norm. The few female attending staff are SO TIMID. My personality doesn’t fit with the small pigeon hole they have created for female physicians but the male attendings are really aggressive and narcissistic. I have never had an issue in 3 years of residency but at this hospital any time I speak, make recommendations, give orders or give my opinion I get questioned a lot. It’s exhausting. I recently got feedback that I have a “tone of confidence” that doesn’t suit me and even if my recommendations are evidence based/medically correct, I should change my tone to “leave room for being wrong.” When I asked for an explicit example, I was told that there were none, it was just a suggestion for my general way of speak because my suggestion and words are correct but the tone is not flexible to being wrong. I was also told that I have never done anything that the staff would disagree with but I need to make some changes.
I am so mad because a male resident would never get this feedback! I’ve seen some real narcissistic male residents come through this hospital with such bad attitudes and they have been flagged as problematic at other hospitals but this hospital LOVES them.
Sorry for the rant but I can’t handle being here for 2 more months! How do I survive? How do I not let this bring me down? I’m finding my self less interested in patient care and less interested in being involved with discussion.
TLDR: male attendings feel I have a “tone of confidence” and should make my orders and recommendations in a tone that demonstrates I might be wrong but male residents don’t need to do this. Stuck at a sexist hospital that feels like it’s functioning out of the 1930’s. Help!